True Discipline

By Dorothy Halverson, Director of Acorn Programs

Our children learn to love our values as we find and use the discipline which is firm but loving, consistent but flexible, and principled but understanding. We want our children to love doing what is right. We make requests with an attitude of expectancy, and sometimes it helps to give some acceptable choices. “Would you like to hop or tip-toe to bed?” If neither of these choices is acceptable to him, we can ask, “Would you like to walk or be carried?”, and if he doesn’t go, we can say, “Oh, I see you decided to be carried,” and then do it with a fun trot. The child understands that we are not going to waver in making a right request, but that we do love him.

When there is no choice, such as, “Do you want to come to dinner?” or “Do you want to get in your car seat?”, then it is important not to phrase the request as a question, thereby giving the child a choice. A better way to phrase the request is, “It’s time to come in for dinner.” or “We are going to the store, so you need to get in your car seat.” We all like to plan ahead and know what is coming next. Children will be more cooperative, too, if they are told what’s coming.

Though we must understand children and not be unreasonable in our expectations, we must also expect enough of them. Children should not be allowed to be disrespectful or impolite towards others. If we hold them firmly to right actions when they are young, they will gain responsibility and learn that responsibility brings freedom. If a child is expressing jealously, aggression, or willfulness, and we feel it is natural for him to be jealous of a sibling, we are giving credibility to an erroneous belief and accepting this false concept of him. It is important to deny these negative traits as erroneous suggestions that have no part in our child’s individuality and hold steadfastly to the true concept of our child as an expression of Love.

Discipline is teaching, not blaming and punishing the child. When disciplining, always separate the behavior from the child. Your approach should assure the child that you love him, but not the inappropriate behavior. “Love does not permit a child to disrespectful, disobedient, and willful. Love corrects.” (Education at The Principia, p. 26) You have the knowledge and experience to know what’s best for your children. Continue to listen for the metaphysical truths about the situation and the actions that may be taken to help your child learn the needed lesson. Parenting is a constant learning process, and as we strive to use the methods which teach the desired lessons to our children, we find ourselves enjoying them more fully.

Scrumptious Scrambled Eggs

Ingredients

4 eggs 
1/4 cup Milk
2 Tablespoons of butter
Salt and Pepper to taste
Bowl for mixing
Whisk
Skillet
Spatula

Directions

Help your child crack four eggs into a bowl. Measure 1/4 cup of milk. Invite your child to pour the milk in with the eggs. Sprinkle salt and pepper into your child’s hand and add to the mixture. BEAT eggs, milk, salt and pepper in bowl until blended. Invite your child to help with this step, too. 
HEAT butter in large nonstick skillet over medium heat until hot. POUR IN egg mixture.
As eggs begin to set, GENTLY PULL the eggs across the pan with an inverted turner, forming large soft curds. Continue pulling and turning until no visible liquid egg is seen. Remove from heat and serve.

Drawing Stripes

Materials
White paper
Crayons or markers (thick crayons, markers, or crayon rocks work best for small hands)
Tape

Directions
Secure the paper with tape onto the work surface. Encourage your toddler to choose a crayon or marker and make lines or stripes down the paper.  Introduce the words top and bottom. With toddlers, don’t be too concerned about the way your child chooses to grip the writing instrument. Encourage preschool age children to hold the marker or crayon using a correct writing grip.

Blocks – The Lessons They Teach

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by Dorothy Halverson, Director of Acorn Programs

Have you ever wondered why blocks are such an important part of any excellent early childhood classroom? Or why your child seems to like playing with them so much? Children learn best through hands-on experiences, and block play is a valuable part of a young child’s development. Using blocks, children can piece together shapes to create a bigger picture, whether it is a representation of something they have seen or from their imagination. Exploring with blocks also nurtures an understanding for math, science, language, and dramatic play. 

Blocks are a wise investment since children continue to use them as they grow. Infants and toddlers enjoy simply touching and gripping larger, textured blocks. As toddlers, they develop more muscle control and are able to combine blocks, stack them, or line them up. Around two, children begin to figure out which shapes will fit where, and get a head start on understanding different perspectives – skills that will help them to read maps and follow directions later on. Two-year-olds may demonstrate their first attempts at building structures, and show the beginnings of imaginative play. 

Around the age of three, children learn how to balance and fit pieces together to build sturdier towers, bridges, and enclosures. Threes and fours begin to recognize designs and patterns, their towers and buildings becoming works of art. In kindergarten and early primary grades, blocks allow children to recreate structures, cities, and landscapes from everyday life. 

When your child plays with blocks, building replicas of the world around her, she is like a little scientist, experimenting with balance, structure, space, and even gravity! Have you ever watched your child attempt to build a simple tower, only to have it fall down at a particular height? Perhaps you have noticed that she tried different ways of placing the blocks until finally she created a tower that stayed up! Amazingly, what she is doing is using the scientific method of experimentation, observation, and cause-and-effect to solve the problem of the tumbling tower. 

Given the many shapes that blocks come in, they are the perfect tool for hands-on learning about basic math concepts. While playing with blocks, your child may naturally begin to sort them by a particular attribute, such as shape or size. He may notice that long rectangle blocks make much better bases than the triangular ones, or that curved blocks need to lie flat on the floor. This exploration into the nature of shapes prepares your child for later geometric understanding. You may also notice that your child enjoys making long lines of blocks. This is an important first step in grasping the concept of measurement. Children often delight when they notice that things are the same length. As an example, your child may notice that his line of blocks is the same length as the living room rug. This is an ideal time to say to your child, “I wonder if you are the same size as your line of blocks? How can we find out?” Asking questions such as these, extends the learning and encourages your child to apply what he has learned from the first measurement of the rug to a new object — himself!   

When playing with blocks, children come across new experiences with each tower, house, and railroad they build. Children are developing sophisticated uses of language, stringing sentences together using larger vocabulary and in-depth thought processes. Block play is an effortless way to get children to practice language skills simply because there is so much to talk about! Many children like to describe what they’re building, or they narrate as they go along. Show interest in your child’s construction by asking open-ended questions such as, “What might happen if . . .” and “How many ways can you . . .” Asking open-ended questions about your child’s block play may inspire her to have new ideas, as well as nurture confidence in creativity. 

Of course, the “pretend play” aspect of block-building also supports the development of social skills. In an early childhood classroom, the block area is an active social center that encourages children to share, take turns, listen, and communicate. While blocks can be a solitary activity, in most classrooms they are the place where children congregate. Even in your own home you may notice that when you bring out the blocks, everyone wants to join in the fun! Perhaps it is the open-ended nature of blocks that makes them so good for practicing a variety of social skills. There is no one “right” way to build with them, thus requiring children to work creatively together to decide how to use them. 

Block play is open-ended, and its possibilities are limitless. Whether they are wooden, colored, snap-together, or boxes, blocks will enhance your child’s learning experience. Even as children grow and develop new interests and abilities, blocks remain an active, creative learning tool.

Stripes and Paint Rollers

Materials
White paper (approx. 12 inches square)
2-gallon Zip-loc baggie
Large bottle of baby oil (half bottle)
1 cup water, colored with food coloring
Flat floral marbles
Small craft paint rollers

Directions
With a marker, draw lines down a piece of 12″ square paper. Secure it to the table with tape. Place about 20 flat floral marbles in the 2-gallon Zip-loc baggie.  Add 1 cup of colored water and half of a large bottle baby oil to the baggie. Secure all sides with clear duct tape and tape on top of the paper. Encourage your child to try to place the floral marbles between the lines using their fingers or roller.  Preschoolers can count the number of marbles between each stripe.    

Creating Stripes using Ribbons

Materials
12″ pieces of ribbon in all sorts of colors
Clear contact paper (12″ square)

Directions
Secure contact paper to a table, sticky side up. Invite your child to choose one ribbon at a time and gently lay it across the contact paper. Continue until the contract paper is covered with stripes of ribbon. Hang contact paper on a window to allow light to shine through. This makes a beautiful colorful hanging. 

Twisted Bread Sticks

Ingredients
1 container of Pillsbury bread sticks
1 egg

Directions

Separate dough into strips. Invite your child to twist each strip of dough and place  on a greased or parchment paper covered cookie sheet. Ask your child to help crack and beat one egg. Using a pastry brush, brush egg on top of each pastry stick.  Bake as directed on the package. Enjoy warm breadsticks as a special snack. 

Stripes on a Stick

Stripes on a Stick

Materials

Large stick
Acrylic paint
Painter’s tape
White spray paint
Paint brushes
Newspaper
Small bowls for paint

DirectionsStripes on a Stick

Go on a stick hunt with your child. Once the perfect stick is found, have an adult spray paint the stick white. The colors will stand out much better. Once the white paint has dried, ask your child to wrap pieces of painter’s tape around the stick to make stripes. Then invite your child to paint between the blue stripes using various colors of acrylic paint.  Once the paint is dry, peal the painter’s tape off. We discovered pealing the paint off was a bit tricky for the children since it would tear easily. Hang the colorful stick in a prominent place.