Individuality and the Whole Man

How fascinating are the seemingly innate special interests of children! 

Becky at ten months is intrigues by mobiles. The mobile in the ACORN office gets her attention repeatedly over the many other toys she is offered. A month ago, toys with strings held her interest. 

At the same age, John sought out balls. If there was a ball within sight, he’d find it. 

As for Cindy, almost from birth, she was on the move. She practiced motor skills to the extent that she crawled well at six months and walked at nine months. 

Along with an overpowering curiosity, Randy, at a year, practices fine motor skills. He loves to put pegs and keys in holes, clothes pins on cans, and make things work. 

Wendy is obviously interested in people. She intently watches other children and adults and shows her affection by giving loving hugs to anyone who will accept them. 

Craig was fascinated by symbols and insisted on knowing names for those funny marks we call numbers and letters. This led to early interest in reading. 

Some of these are changing interests; others are continuing ones, but they all point to individuality. Since there is need in the adult world for many types of specialists, it is well that our children don’t all have exactly the same interests and talents. On the other hand, in order to work well together, we want them to broaden their interests to the extent that they can understand others and enjoy themselves in a variety of situations. 

Parents can help their children by recognizing and appreciating interests and talents and by providing special opportunities or equipment to develop these talents. They should also be aware that it may be possible to promote one-sided development by providing toys and opportunities only in the area of a child’s or parents’ interests. 

Principia has always been concerned with the need to educate the “whole man.” This means development of mental, social, physical, moral, and spiritual capabilities. Curriculum and programs are adopted with this goal in mind. Parents might also like to consider this educational goal. 

If a child excludes certain activities because of an all-consuming interest, it may be necessary to look for special ways to encouraged needed skills. It takes ingenuity and effort on the part of a parent to find a way of helping a child to develop a needed skill in which he lacks interests. The skill should be presented in ways that will lead to success. Perhaps a young ball-lover can learn to identify balls by color and size. He may roll the ball “under,” “over,” and later, to the right or left of objects. He may count the number of times he throws a bean bag onto various cardboard shapes. He could listen to and make up stories about sports. 

The intellectually inclined child might enjoy counting the times he bounces the ball of swings in the swing. Perhaps he will ride his tricycle to go on a secret mission. His parents may need to provide play equipment which is especially interesting to him as well as a small pool or opportunity to play and swim in a pool. 

A child should not be forced to use equipment or develop skills but should be led to discover that he can succeed in a way that will encourage his to do more. Ridicule or coercion will merely intensify his image of himself as a non-participant. 

Children who love sociability may profit by playing learning games with others, or by playing games of skill. Some parents may need to put limitations on the continuous social contacts of a friendly activity or a book. Others may need to make efforts to invite friends over to play with a child who is satisfied with solitary pursuits. 

One child may seem to have all-consuming interest, while another appears to be interested in everything. What folly it is to judge a child or his parents because that child is not like another child or a so-called norm! Each child will thrive and make a contribution to our society if he is enjoyed and encouraged.

Patriotic Water Play

Materials
Large plastic tub or container for water (not too deep!)
Various red, white, and blue objects

Directions
Place water in a large plastic container. Add blue food coloring for a fun effect. Place a variety of red, white, and blue objects in the water. Invite your child to explore and practice pouring. Introduce new vocabulary words such as sink, float, top, bottom. Which objects sink to the bottom? Which objects float on top of the water?

Milk Fireworks

Milk Fireworks

Materials 

Whole Milk 
A baking pan 
Red and blue food coloring 
Liquid dishwashing soap 

Directions 

Pour some milk into the baking pan, enough to cover the bottom of the pan. Drop several drops of blue and red food coloring around the milk. Add a “squirt” or two of the dishwashing liquid and watch the colors burst and swirl. The dishwashing liquid separates the fat from the other liquids in the milk. If the fireworks slow down, just add another squirt of dishwashing liquid. 

Patriotic Shaving Cream Exploration

Materials
1 can shaving cream (non-scented is suggested)
Large container
Red and blue food coloring
Plastic straws

Directions
Place shaving cream in large container. Invite your child to add 4-5 drops of red and blue food coloring on the shaving cream. Using a plastic straw, invite your child to explore what happens when he moves the straws (or his hands) around the shaving cream. What happens as the blue and red mix? What new color does blue and red make when mixed together? Enjoy the fun sensory experience!

Patriotic Necklaces

Materials 

String 
Blue pony beads 
Red and white striped straws 
Scissors 
Scotch tape 

Directions 

Cut straws into one inch pieces and set them out with a small container of blue pony beads. Cut a piece of string long enough to fit over your child’s head when tied. Leave a little extra for tying the finished necklace together. Tie a pony bead to one end of the string. This will keep the beads and straws from slipping off the string. For easier threading, wrap a piece of scotch tape on the other end of the string. Invite your child to thread beads and straw pieces onto the string. If interested, encourage your child to create a simple pattern. When your child has finished threading beads and straws, tie the ends of the string together to make a necklace. 

For younger children, try using pipe cleaners for threading rather than string. They can turn their finished creations into bracelets! 

Patriotic Parfait

Parfait

Ingredients

Sliced, fresh strawberries
Fresh blueberries
Vanilla yogurt
Clear plastic cups or tumblers

Directions

Wash fruit and slice strawberries. Invite your child to spoon some vanilla yogurt into the bottom of the cup. Then add strawberries, followed by more yogurt. Next add blueberries and another layer of yogurt. Top with more strawberries and blueberries. Enjoy!

Sparkly Patriotic Fireworks!

Sparkly Fireworks

Materials

Cardboard toilet paper rolls (one for each color of paint used)
Red, white, and blue tempera paint
Large sheet of dark blue construction paper
Paper plates
Sponge brush or small paint brush
Scissors
Glitter (optional)

Sparkly FireworksDirections

Using a pair of scissors, make a cut approximately two inches long from the end of the cardboard tube towards the center of the tube. Continue making two inch slits around the circumference of the tube approximately one inch apart. Press the tube on a hard surface to make the strips fan outward. On separate paper plates, pour different colors of tempera paint. Invite your child to dip the cardboard tube into the paint and press it onto the large construction paper. If needed, use a sponge brush or paint brush to cover the strips of cardboard. Press onto the dark construction paper. Continue making fireworks by using the various colors of tempera paint. Sprinkle wet paint with silver glitter. Hang when dry.

Brownies

Ingredients
Brownie mix
Vegetable oil
Eggs
Bowl
Spoon
Baking pan

Directions
Follow the instructions on the box. Invite your child to pour the mix into a bowl, crack the eggs, add the water and oil, mix the batter, and pour it into the baking pan. Talk about the measurements, the changes observed in the batter as new ingredients are added. Bake the brownies. Serve when cool.

Pondering Perseverance

By Dorothy Halverson

For many years, parents and teachers were cautioned by some experts not to let a child get frustrated when learning new tasks or skills. They feared that the child might exhibit stress, insecurity, and low self-esteem. More recently, however, many have come to feel that a certain amount of frustration is essential to healthy character formation and independent growth.

Mary Kimball Morgan, founder and first president of The Principia, understood the importance of training children to be independent thinkers, even though it may take some struggling along the way. She poses this question in Education at The Principia (p. 57): “Are we helping them to gain the stamina, perseverance, and courage necessary to cope successfully with [world] conditions? Or are we weakening their character through personal indulgence and unwise protection—doing their work for them or shielding them from the consequences of their willful mistakes?”

When observing children struggling through a task and even exhibiting some frustration with a challenge, some of us may feel we’re helping out when we step in, but in reality we may be interfering in the opportunity for growth. Instead, it’s important to stand back in a supportive but non-interfering way, and let the learning experience occur. This gives the child room to develop initiative, resourcefulness, and problem-solving skills.

How can we be supportive yet non-interfering? Dr. John Rosemond offers these suggestions in his book entitled Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Heathy Children (Andrews McNeel Publishing, 1989).

  1. Establish a relaxed environment where children can discover their own potential.
  2. Guide and model more than order.
  3. Be a consultant to your child’s growth and development.
  4. Allow children to make mistakes. Some of the most valuable lessons are learned through making mistakes.

In doing these things, we send messages of trust and personal worth to our children and allow them the freedom to discover their own capabilities.

Working in an early childhood environment, I observe on a daily basis children taking risks, trying new things, and yes, making many mistakes along the way. But, the children are lovingly supported and gently guided. I love to witness four- and five-year-olds persevere when learning to ride a bicycle. The children quickly learn that they need to be in control, both mentally and physically. Some children get very frustrated with this at times, but the teacher calmly talks each child through the steps, encouraging them to keep trying. Once they succeed, they feel such a sense of accomplishment and empowerment. Their confidence and self-esteem grow as they experience success by expressing persistence, patience, and perseverance.

These same qualities—patience, persistence, confidence, empowerment, and perseverance—are expressed each time children tackle a new skill, such as learning to walk, tying shoes, or zipping a coat. Before beginning to work on a certain task or skill, it is important to know whether the child is ready and capable developmentally. Also, children are much more willing to persevere when it is a skill they want to learn.

It can be helpful to break down larger tasks so that they experience successes along the way (i.e. starting the zipper or having your child work through the first steps of shoe tying while you make the loops.) Each success increases their confidence to cope with the next, slightly more difficult task. Offering guiding suggestions and letting them know that you are there if they need you can be comforting to children.

Remember not to do the task for them, but remind them that it is OK if they don’t succeed the first time. If you are patient and relaxed yourself and allow your child to work, he will be more apt to continue trying to successfully meet challenges.

As children learn to persevere, they discover their own abilities, become self-sufficient, creative, and resourceful; express confidence and courage; and learn to think independently. And as Mary Kimball Morgan states, “In childhood, it is very essential that right habits of thought become established—honesty, truthfulness, unselfishness, industry, thoroughness, perseverance, loving-kindness, and all noble qualities which make for Christian character” (Education at The Principia, p. 21).

Patterns in Playdough

Materials
Playdough
Plastic recycleables

Directions
Invite your child to roll playdough out into a pancake shape. Using a variety of plastic recyclables with interesting shapes, encourage your child to make prints with them into the playdough. What fun impressions and patterns than your child make?  Have fun!